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Let’s talk about acceptance—this powerful, misunderstood tool will transform your thinking and your life.

Ready for a clarity boost and a dash of insight?

Acceptance Demystified

Acceptance is a crucial part of the flexibility we all crave. Picture it as being open to life’s ever-changing script and being adaptable without losing sight of your values.

To be more psychologically flexible, stay present, follow your values, and avoid acting automatically.

Acceptance: The Master Key

Acceptance isn’t just about waving a white flag to life’s challenges. Recognize the good and bad without walls or tantrums. It’s about saying; life happens, let’s roll with it.

What Acceptance Is Not

Not all situations require your liking. It’s important to remember life is a mix of positive and negative experiences.

In Action: When Life Throws Curveballs

Ever had someone ruined your day with their negativity? Here’s where the power of acceptance shines. Instead of diving into the ‘why’ and ‘what ifs’, simply acknowledge the negative thoughts. ‘I notice I’m having these thoughts,’ you say, like clouds passing by. You let them be, and guess what? They lose their grip on you.

The Marvel of Acceptance

When we accept the rollercoaster of life, something magical happens. The negative thoughts and feelings lose their heavyweight status. They become mere whispers in the wind, not thunderstorms that wreck your day. Acceptance is like a muscle—the more you flex it, the stronger and more liberating it becomes.

Your Homework: Mindfulness in Motion

Ready for some acceptance exercises? Here’s one: the ‘I am noticing’ mantra. When negative thoughts come knocking, say aloud (or in your mind) ‘I am noticing…’ and voice your thoughts and feelings. Watch as they lose their grip on you.

Parting Words: You’ve Got This!

Life’s a wild ride, but with acceptance in your toolkit, you’ll navigate the twists and turns like a pro. Accept the good and the bad! Stay mindful, stay accepting.

Why do I feel overwhelmed?

Time is scarce with work and parenting. Balancing a demanding career with the responsibilities of parenthood can lead to a constant state of overwhelm.

Struggling with time anxiety and yearning for more control over your life? You’re not alone.

In this post, we’ll explore the causes of time anxiety and offer practical solutions to help you regain your sense of balance and control.

Understanding Time Anxiety

Time anxiety is the concern of having insufficient time. Working parents have to handle many responsibilities, such as work, taking their kids to soccer practice, and putting them to bed. This can create a storm of stress and anxiety.

The Root Causes

  1. Perfectionism: Professional parents often set high standards for themselves both at work and at home. The fear of not meeting these standards can lead to anxiety.
  2. Lack of boundaries: It’s easy for work to spill into family time and, vice versa, eroding the boundaries between these essential aspects of life.
  3. Over committing: can make you feel overwhelmed and stretched thin.


  1. Prioritize and Delegate: Identify your most important tasks at work and at home. Delegate or outsource less critical tasks to free up your time.
  2. Set Clear Boundaries: Establish boundaries between work and family time. Create a dedicated workspace at home and communicate your availability to your employer and family.
  3. Time blocking: can help you schedule work, family and relaxation time into specific blocks. Stick to your schedule as much as possible.
  4. Practice Self-Compassion: Let go of perfectionism. Understand that it’s okay to not do everything. Don’t beat yourself up when things go wrong.
  5. Mindfulness and relaxation: Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine. Meditation, deep breathing exercises, or a short walk can help reduce stress and anxiety.
  6. Seek Support: ask for help. Whether it’s from a partner, family member, or childcare services, sharing responsibilities can ease your burden.
  7. Time Management Tools: use time management apps and tools to track your tasks, set reminders, and stay organized.
  8. Outsourcing and Simplifying: Consider outsourcing tasks like cleaning or grocery shopping to save time. Simplify your daily routines where possible.
  9. Learn to Say No: Be selective about taking on new commitments. Saying “no” when necessary is a powerful way to protect your time.
  10. Seek help: If you’re struggling with time anxiety, seek help from a behavioural coach or therapist for coping strategies.

Time anxiety is a common challenge for professional parents, but it’s not insurmountable.

You can take control of your time and balance work and parenting by trying these strategies and changing your routine.

Remember, it’s okay to seek support and prioritize self-care on this journey towards a more fulfilling and less anxious life.

Feel like you don’t have enough time?

Do you feel like there’s not enough hours in the day?

You’re no stranger to the relentless demands of balancing work, family, and personal goals.

The constant fretting over whether there’s enough time to accomplish everything can leave you feeling out of control, overwhelmed, and like you’re always moving too slowly.

It’s a familiar struggle – the feeling that time is slipping through your fingers.

This anxiety often stems from a perception of having a lack of time, which can be addressed.

In this blog post, we will explore effective time management strategies to help you regain control and prioritize what’s important in your life.

  1. Mindfulness: One of the most powerful tools to combat the stress of limited time is mindfulness. Incorporating mindfulness into your daily routines can make a significant difference. Start by paying attention to the present moment. When you’re with your children, be fully present with them. When you’re working on a task, focus solely on that task. Mindfulness helps you appreciate each moment and prevents the constant worrying about what comes next.
  2. Journal: At the end of your day, take a few minutes to reflect in a journal. Write down what causes the feelings of anxiety related to time. This practice of self-reflection can help you identify recurring patterns and triggers. By acknowledging these stressors, you can begin to address and manage them more effectively.
  3. Address the Underlying Issue: Sometimes, the anxiety about time is rooted in a deeper issue – a feeling of helplessness or a belief that you can’t control time. It’s essential to remind yourself that you can’t stop time from moving, but you can control what you do in the present moment. Reflect on what it means to spend your time beneficially. Are you aligning your actions with your priorities? By consciously making choices that align with your goals and values, you’ll feel more in control of your time.
  4. Talk with a Professional: Seeking professional guidance can be immensely beneficial. A behavioural coach like myself can help you navigate the complex interplay of feelings, thoughts, choices, and actions. Through meaningful conversations, you can gain insights and develop strategies to manage stress and maximize your productivity as a professional parent.

In the fast-paced world of professional parenting, it’s easy to succumb to the feeling that there’s never enough time.

However, by practicing mindfulness, journaling to identify stress triggers, addressing underlying issues, and seeking guidance from a professional, you can regain control of your time and start prioritizing what truly matters.

Don’t let anxiety about time hold you back from achieving your potential.

Remember, time is a precious resource – it’s how you use it that truly counts.

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How to stay consistent

Let’s dive into something countless individuals confide in me, a struggle that resonates profoundly – the quest for consistency.

I’ve walked this path too, and through countless conversations, I’ve seen a recurring theme.

Many are trapped in a cycle – aspiring for change, yet wrestling with its maintenance.

It’s a familiar script: initial zeal succeeded by distracting deviations.

The notion that a new partner, house, or job holds the key to our sought-after validation and joy often guides these pursuits.

But, here’s the twist: old challenges remerge, blurring that initial hope. Familiar issues resurface, birthing discontent.

This cyclic dance leads to unhappiness in relationships, dissatisfaction in careers, and a general feeling of unrest.

It’s a phenomenon I call the “shiny object syndrome.” The relentless pull of distraction, fuelled by the belief that novelty is the doorway to contentment.

This instinct traces back to our craving for newness, a trait etched in childhood – remember yearning for the latest toys?

This pattern imprisons us, propelling us from one endeavor to another, hoping the next “shiny object” will unlock serenity.

Progress blooms when we recognize distractions as costly diversions from fundamental resolutions.

The core change eludes us until we delve into our own depths. Partners, homes, jobs – they can’t rewrite our script.

The pivot arrives when we challenge our excuses, steering behaviours towards genuine metamorphosis.

This shift amplifies relationships, nurtures mental and physical well-being, and illuminates fulfillment.

I invite you to reflect upon this perspective. Together, let’s chart a course beyond the cycle, towards authenticity and lasting transformation.

How to deal with stress

Picture this: your energy, once vibrant and boundless, starts to wane. Slowly, almost imperceptibly, you notice the decline.

Yet, like a frog in slowly heating water, you wonder if this is just the norm. Thoughts creep in — “Everyone’s stressed, right? Maybe I’m overthinking this.”

So, you do what many of us do: you accept it. But let’s be clear, this isn’t a post about motivation. It’s not about urging you to muster a burst of enthusiasm or artificially pump yourself up.

Instead, it’s about cultivating awareness, about recognizing the signs before they snowball into something unmanageable. It’s about closing the gate before the horse bolts and refusing to wait until the 11th hour to make a change.

Because here’s the truth: While you might be performing decently on the professional front, personally, things might be a train wreck.

The undercurrent of stress and discontent is pulling you down, and you might not even realize the extent of its impact. You sense it in the waning enthusiasm at work, in the way you treat your body as if it were an amusement park, neglecting its needs for rest, nourishment, and care.

You see it in the precious moments you should be spending with your family, which are being sacrificed to the ever-expanding demands of your schedule. The strain on your relationships becomes evident through emotional outbursts, moments you wish you could take back but that leave their mark nonetheless.

And your solution? You bury your head in the proverbial sand, throwing yourself even deeper into your work, hoping that the pressures and anxieties will magically sort themselves out.

But the truth is, avoiding the issues only exacerbates the problem. Ignoring what you know you should be addressing creates a dissonance within you, a gnawing feeling that something’s not right.

This internal conflict between knowing what needs to change and resisting that change only breeds more misery, low energy, and a sense of being trapped in a rut.

These are the unconscious signals — negative memories, unresolved emotions — that demand resolution. They surface at inconvenient moments, disrupting your mental equilibrium until they’re dealt with.

And these issues won’t simply disappear until you face them head-on.

The irony is, as you expend energy suppressing these negative emotions or resorting to unhealthy coping mechanisms, you inadvertently magnify the problem.

Instead of dissipating, the discomfort lingers, weighing you down further.

So, what’s the way out of this cycle? How can you start reclaiming your energy, your sense of well-being, and your overall equilibrium?

The answer lies in embracing positive stress methods. It’s not about avoiding stress altogether — a feat that’s nearly impossible in the modern world. Rather, it’s about cultivating a healthy relationship with stress, understanding your capacities, resources, and adaptations.

It’s about recognizing that not all stress is bad, and that a certain level of challenge can actually propel you forward. Imagine a balance — the total demands and pressures you face, weighed against your ability to handle them, your personal resources.

Striking this equilibrium is key to maintaining your energy and well-being.

This isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. It’s about recognizing your unique circumstances, your strengths, and your limitations. It’s about practicing self-awareness, identifying the areas of your life that are tipping the balance, and taking deliberate steps to regain control.

In conclusion, the journey to reclaiming your energy and well-being begins with awareness. It’s about acknowledging the signs of decline, understanding the consequences of avoidance, and embracing stress as a force that can be harnessed for growth.

By recognizing the interplay between demands and resources, you can regain your sense of equilibrium and create a life that’s not only professionally successful but personally fulfilling as well.

It won’t be an overnight transformation, but every step you take towards awareness and positive change is a step towards a brighter, more balanced future.

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Overcoming Procrastination and Embracing Change

If you’re reading this, it’s likely that you’re considering joining the High Value Executive program.

Yet, perhaps doubts are lingering in your mind, casting shadows over your aspirations. Doubts are natural companions on any journey of transformation, but they need not hold you back.

In fact, one of the most common reservations many of my clients faced before embarking on this transformative journey was the belief that they needed more time to implement changes and improve their circumstances.

The refrain, “I’ll start when I have more time,” echoed in the minds of many. It’s a sentiment I’m intimately familiar with, having wrestled with it myself.

Have you heard of the ‘when/then’ fallacy?

It’s a cognitive trap we often find ourselves ensnared in. It sounds something like this:

“When I have more time, then I’ll start making healthier choices.”

“When I’m financially stable, then I’ll start saving money.”

“When my life gets less chaotic, then I’ll focus on reducing stress.”

“When my relationship is perfect, then I’ll invest in improving it.

“It’s akin to saying, “I’ll pay for the gym membership once I’m already in shape.” The absurdity is clear, isn’t it?

However, it’s precisely this type of thinking that keeps us stationary, mired in procrastination and hesitation. We wait for the perfect moment, the ideal circumstances, the magic hour when everything aligns.

But here’s the truth: that moment rarely arrives. The truth is, waiting for the perfect conditions is like chasing a mirage — it’s an illusion that leads nowhere.

The root of this procrastination is fear and uncertainty, two insidious forces that often lurk beneath the surface of our intentions. Our brains are wired to avoid uncertainty; they crave the comfort of routine, even if that routine is making us miserable.

This is the invisible chain that holds us back, preventing us from embracing change and embarking on transformative journeys.

Allow me to introduce you to John, a client who was caught in this very web of uncertainty. When he first reached out to me, he voiced a common concern: “Can I really achieve this transformation with my busy life? I have a business to run and a family to care for.”

The High Value Executive program is designed with the minimum effective dose principle in mind. This means that even amidst a bustling schedule, you can cultivate life-altering habits.

By cutting out irrelevant activities and focusing on what truly matters, you save time and energy. John recognized the value of this approach and decided to take a leap of faith.

As he began implementing the methods and strategies, he experienced a remarkable shift within just 30 days. His confidence grew, and he found a new sense of calm amidst life’s storms.

Three months later, the transformation was undeniable. His self-esteem soared, his relationships with his family deepened, he handled stress with newfound ease, and the weight of anxiety was lifted from his shoulders.

What’s remarkable is that the process felt natural and authentic to him, a journey that not only uplifted his own life but had positive ripples throughout his family. The transformation led to tangible personal and professional gains, and perhaps most importantly, he felt like the father and husband he’d always wanted to be.

Was it an effortless journey for John? No, he put in the work, faced challenges, and pushed through moments of discomfort.

Yet, the rewards he reaped were invaluable.

And here’s the truth that I want to share with you: if you’re willing to put in the effort, if you’re ready to roll up your sleeves and embrace change, I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

The High Value Executive program isn’t a shortcut; it’s a commitment to growth and transformation. It’s about acknowledging the ‘when/then’ fallacy and embracing the power of the present. It’s about recognizing that waiting for the ‘right time’ is a trap, and the time to act is now.

So, if you’re ready to embark on a journey that leads to enhanced leadership, stronger relationships, improved well-being, and personal fulfilment, then I’m here to support you.

Together, we’ll break free from the chains of uncertainty, and you’ll discover the true potential that lies within you. It won’t always be easy, but with dedication and guidance, you can achieve results that will amaze you. Are you willing to take the leap?

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Are you in control?

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, it’s often our impulsive reactions that lead us astray. There’s a saying that perfectly captures this sentiment: ‘What we do during anger, we almost always come to regret.’ This simple truth resonates deeply with all of us who have fallen victim to our own emotions, acting without restraint and later grappling with the consequences.

I can personally testify to the veracity of this statement. Looking back on my journey, I shudder to think about the countless times a lack of self-control has cost me dearly. From relationships marred by heated conflicts to business opportunities lost due to impulsive actions, I’ve navigated a path strewn with the debris of unchecked emotions. But through these experiences, I’ve come to recognize the immense power of mastering one’s emotions and cultivating self-discipline.

One poignant example is the toll my unrestrained anger took on my relationships. In the heat of the moment, I’d find myself shouting hurtful words during conflicts, inflicting wounds on loved ones that were irreparable. The aftermath was a painful realization of the bridges I’d burned, and the relationships I’d irreparably damaged.

The professional realm, too, bore witness to my emotional shortcomings. I recall firing off angry emails, the text dominated by glaring, attention-demanding ALL CAPS, in response to perceived client slights. In these instances, my anger became a catalyst for poor judgment and rash decisions, causing me to lose valuable business partnerships that were difficult to salvage.

Even in the pursuit of my career dreams, frustration often led me to contemplate giving up entirely. The lack of progress would breed discontentment, and the nagging voice of doubt would coax me towards abandoning my aspirations. It was in these moments that I learned the importance of resilience and persistence, for success rarely comes without its fair share of setbacks.

However, the most heart-wrenching realization was how my inability to control my anger negatively affected my health and personal life. Poor coping mechanisms and bad habits became my refuge, exacerbating the stress and anxiety that accompanied my unchecked emotions. I’ll never forget the times I lost my temper with my children, their innocent outbursts met with my irrational wrath. The damage, and the guilt weighed heavily on my conscience.

It was during these darker moments that I had an epiphany — an understanding that my anger had hijacked my rational self, steering me towards regrettable actions and consequences. This ‘mild madness’ as I’ve come to call it, is an all-too-common human experience. We allow our impulses to take the wheel, only to find ourselves in a place we never intended to be.

In light of my own experiences, I implore you to reflect on the power of your temper and the choices you make in the heat of the moment. Resist the urge to act impulsively, to heedlessly follow the green light that flashes in your mind. Instead, embrace the amber light — that crucial pause before action, where reason and logic reside. This is where you build the foundation of self-discipline, where you foster the ability to navigate your emotions with grace and foresight.

Think of your mind as two distinct parts: the reactive, animalistic ‘monkey mind’ that only sees green, and the higher brain that houses reason, logic, and wisdom. The key to mastering your emotions lies in keeping the latter engaged when emotions are running high. It’s about recognizing the separation between instinct and conscious choice.

When emotions flare, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed by the primal impulses of the monkey mind. Yet, it’s our actions during these moments that truly define our paths. Avoid making significant decisions while under the influence of these emotional surges. These decisions are the demarcation between success and failure, between regret and pride.

Finding that amber light — the space to be present and conscious — is pivotal in maintaining equilibrium. It’s in this space that we can scrutinize our decisions, differentiating between choices driven by fear and insecurity versus those rooted in love, contentment, and virtuosity.

The journey to achieving equanimity and mastering your emotions is not an overnight transformation. It requires dedication, patience, and a commitment to personal growth. Small victories count; each step forward, no matter how incremental, brings you closer to your goal.

Mind control techniques play a pivotal role in this journey. By adopting practices that promote mindfulness, meditation, and self-awareness, you can enhance your ability to pause before reacting and make decisions from a place of centeredness. These techniques facilitate the cultivation of consciousness, helping you consistently make choices aligned with your higher values.

In conclusion, the power of finding the amber light is immeasurable. It’s a skill that can transform your life — enriching relationships, bolstering your professional endeavours, and preserving your mental and emotional well-being. As you navigate the complexities of human emotion, remember that your ability to pause, reflect, and choose your responses wisely is the key to mastering the art of self-control and achieving a more fulfilling, purposeful existence.

If you want to learn more about how I can further help you take control of every aspect of your life so you can be healthier, more successful and happier. I invite you for a free call with me where I will share with you my method and my previous clients’ success stories.

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Making time for mindfulness

If the thought of taking five minutes for yourself has you feeling guilty. And you always prioritise other things. That’s something you need to address.

Nothing should prevent you from taking time for yourself. And if you’re looking for something, that’s effective and easy. Mindfulness is one of the best ways to utilise your time.

There are many mindfulness exercises and meditations you can practise.

Mindful movement, guided meditation, mindful movement, they’re all beneficial.

Why is meditation so hard?

Many avoid silence due to discomfort, not boredom.

Because mindfulness allows your thoughts to become loud. It may bring up uncomfortable thoughts you don’t want to hear.

People go to great lengths to avoid being alone with their thoughts.

I read about an experiment where participants stayed in an empty room by themselves for 20 minutes. In this room was nothing except for a button which administered an electric shock.

A startling 68% of participants pressed the button, and not just once but several times over the 20-minute period. Rather than just be alone with their thoughts in silence, they would electrocute themselves.

Not surprising, considering it’s what people do when they’re drinking, smoking and drugs. Distraction themselves from thoughts and suppression of feelings. Both of which have latent repercussions.

How can I improve at mindfulness?

Being alone with my thoughts used to make me feel uncomfortable because there is no distracting yourself from them. And the silence only amplifies them.

Mindfulness tackles this head on.

When starting out with mindful movement, I’d get frustrated thinking it wasn’t working, or I wasn’t doing it right. I’d get lost in my thoughts and play them out like a mental movie. Realise what I’d done and return to my anchor (what I’m focusing on, i.e., my body or my breathing).

But when I understood that was the purpose of mindfulness it became more appealing. And looking back ‘why was I worried about that?’ I realise it was a fear of fear itself.

Over time, I’ve integrated it into my schedule. And the acknowledgement of these thoughts has become easier and they’ve become less frequent. As a result, my mental clarity has vastly improved. My mind is now quiet where it was once busy and noisy.

This is one of several practises I do for my calmness. If you’d like more information on how to achieve your equanimity, click here

Is work stress effecting home life?

You can’t stay the same, and expect things to change. If you work 60+ hours a week the likelihood is you’ll struggle to focus on your family.

Believe me I’ve been there.

For a long time I was operating on the premise that hard work, long hours and self-sacrifice proved my commitment to my family. And that should suffice.

It’s not easy for someone whose primary identity is that of ‘family breadwinner’ to reassess that identity.

You’re now factoring in the role of Dad and husband.

And when it comes to your relationship, which is definitely not the fairy-tale Disney sold you. Walt forgot to mention that there’d be:




periods of disconnection

Then there’s parenting, which will test you to levels you never knew existed.

the constant requests (average 3 per minute for toddlers)

the tantrums (these were an adventure)

your attention

physical interaction (rough housing)

emotional support (I was lost when starting out)

And on top you also have your needs, to give your best to your profession.

What you need to understand is being a Dad, a husband, a business owner is easy.

But the being good at them, well that takes skill. A skill I call personal development.

Something my coach, helped me to understand is; to change your situation, you have to change yourself. Which is why I hired a coach.

To ensure I wasn’t guilty of mental masturbation; knowing what I should do but not actioning it. That’s called cognitive dissonance, and it’s a very uncomfortable place to live.

So I developed a system to ensure I could execute the essentials everyday.
Yes, at times it was hard (sometimes it seemed impossible). And I wasn’t perfect. But it worked.

Being consistent with the system saw me become a better father, a better husband, and a better person.

Now, if you’re saying to yourself, ‘I want to, but I don’t have the time’. That’s exactly what I used to think. That’s a limiting belief.

And these beliefs create a narrative, an Eco chamber that keeps you stuck.

Chances are you’re already doing these things. They just need a bit of tweaking to improve the quality and achieve the desired outcome.

That’s why I devised the system with the minimum effective dose in mind. The least amount of work (daily habits) that will yield results.

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How do I overcome the resistance to take action?

I had this thought, maybe more of an epiphany when I was 22
and until later on in life I didn’t realise it was such a defining moment.

At the time I was working in a sports centre. It’s so vivid.

I was starting some paper work, and when I opened the ledger I noticed this feeling. I caught myself thinking: ‘I don’t want to do it’.

Never before had I noticed this feeling. This acknowledgement and awareness of this inner voice.

It’d probably always been there, influencing me and dictating my actions and behaviours.

And I remember saying to myself right then and there,
‘what if I use this feeling, these thoughts, as a prompt to do the work?’

Since then this approach has helped me do the work I know will benefit me. Regardless of how I feel about it.

I acknowledge the barrage of excuses that come flooding in when it’s time to do the work. I’m aware and attuned to them, and I use them.

I accept the fact I don’t feel like to doing the work in the moment, and that’s fine. I’m just going to do it anyway.

Instead of them stopping me, I use them as a green light. To push through the resistance and do the work.

I know that this resistance is in my head. There is no physical restraint, just thoughts and feelings.

Which don’t have power over me, or control my actions. Because they don’t exist, I mean in a physical sense.

This isn’t to say I don’t experience the feeling of resistance, I still do. But I acknowledge it’s a suggestion from my mind (to avoid discomfort from the work) and I override it.

You might experience this, but might not be aware of it (as I wasn’t). This resistance, this invisible hand that guides you.

And when the time comes to doing something for yourself. That is beneficial personal or professionally, that is when it makes an appearance.
Wham! A stiff jab of an excuse.

Followed by a powerful hooking feeling of anxiousness.

And then comes the finisher, the big overhand limiting belief, which knocks you down.

There’s the obligatory 10 count but you know it’s futile. You’ve already accepted you’ve lost this one.

But once you get wise to your opponent through awareness. You learn to fight back.

You start winning a few rounds here and there, and before you know it you have these feelings of apathy on the ropes.

Winning these mental battles paves the way for you to start taking action and changing your life.

But what you need to understand is these fights will be ongoing, they never stop.

Your opponent, the resistance, is always going to be there. Ready, waiting every time that bell rings.

But every time you face them, you’re stronger. Because you’ve been working on yourself.

You’ve been taking action to build your mental resilience. To control your emotions. To increase your physical vitality.

You have a plan a purpose. You have more support in the crowd.

Now you actually look forward to the fight. And you want them to give you their best shot.

Because you’ve moved up a level. You’re in a different class to your excuses.