Gratitude should be your attitude

Evolution has attuned us to notice negative stimuli more readily.

And remember them more vividly compared to positive ones.

This threat-focused negativity bias was once imperative to our early ancestors’ survival.

While living in the modern era we may not face the same dangers. The bias still plays an important role as we look for potential threats.

For instance, we become waylaid by criticism.

Hung up on life’s unpleasantries.

And consistently weigh the negative aspects of events more heavily than the positive.

Filtering & disqualifying the positive things that happen, undermining much of life’s richness.

We disregard or dismiss countless enjoyable aspects of everyday life as unimportant.

So, it’s imperative to pay deliberate attention to the good things that happen. Regardless of how small or insignificant they may seem on the surface.

Gratitude has helped me:

feel more positive emotions,
build strong relationships,
relish good experiences,
improve my health,
& deal with adversity

I practice gratitude daily as part of my 321 journaling method.

Writing down 3 things that happened in my day I’m grateful for and why I’m grateful for them.

Practicing gratitude isn’t a huge thing, but the change it’s made to my outlook is.

Health and wellbeing talk


Through the sea of raised hands, I could see the food. 

It looked amazing, pigs in blankets, goujons, samosas. All beautifully presented by the waiting staff on silver platters.


I was salivating and I could hear my stomach grumbling. I kept having to swallow before answering a question. And make sure the mic wasn’t picking up my grumbling tummy.


The food had been sat there for some time, it felt like hours. It had to be cold. But that wasn’t going to stop me. As soon as the Q& A session was over I had visions of swan diving into the middle of the banquet.


I couldn’t be the only one who was ready to eat and yet still the questions kept coming;


‘You know the slide where you had the person’s metabolic rate…’


‘What is the most effective way I could calculate…’


‘Which means of tracking do you use…’


‘You know the machines in Boots the pharmacy…’


‘My Fitbit says that I…’


And then it was over. The last question was answered. Yes, food time.


But I had celebrated early I could see a queue forming. People who wanted to ask me a question that they didn’t feel comfortable asking in front of the group.


I get it, they might feel that they are asking a silly question. And don’t want to look silly in from of their work colleagues.


Or it was something personal that they didn’t want to share with the rest of the company.


All manner of weird and wonderful questions I fielded. The hunger sensation was suppressed. I was full of the feeling of satisfaction you get when you help someone to understand something.


The last person in the queue was the company director. “Andrew that was fantastic.” He said with a big smile.


“You kept 50 hungry people so engaged that they didn’t even notice the food come out”.


“You must be hungry yourself, go and grab yourself some food and meet me at the bar”


‘Finally, some food’, said the voice in my head in a Gordon Ramsey accent.


Or so I thought. I stood there overlooking the spread in disbelief. The staff members had ripped through the buffet like locus through a crop field. 


Good job the hunger (Ghrelin wave) had passed. So I headed over to the bar to meet up with the Company Director. 


“Andrew” The Director greeted me. “Let me introduce you to Phil. Phil runs a finance company”.


“That was great, how do I get you to come and deliver that seminar to my staff they would love that”. Phil said.


And that is how it started! That is how I ended up on the circuit (so to speak). A favour for a friend that turned into an opportunity to talk to businesses all over.


And Jesus have I missed it. Webinars have been nice and all but it’s not the same as going into offices and meeting people. Having that connection in a live face-to-face setting.


And I’m excited about this semblance of normality returning. Now that people are going back to the workplace.


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