Picture this situation, you are driving home from work after a great day and your favourite song comes on the radio.
It’s been a fantastic day and your spirits are high, so what do you do? You do what any reasonable person would do in this situation, you start singing. A little bit of head bopping, steering wheel tapping (channelling your inner Keith Moon).
You’re in your own little world loving life. Until you see the guy in the car next to you looking at you.
This is where you could go from feeling great to wishing you were invisible.
You might turn the radio down, sit back into your seat, reset your hands to the 10 and 2 position. Adjust your joyous facial expression, to one that conveys serious mature thoughts.
This example is ascribing too much importance to what other people think.
It’s not that you shouldn’t give any importance to other’s opinions. But where it crosses the line is when you care what absolute strangers think. Or people that are insignificant in your life. People you don’t respect.
These people should have no bearing on your actions or your goals. If it was up to someone else how to achieve our dreams and progress most of us wouldn’t achieve anything in our lives.
You need to base your decisions and goals on you, not other people. Too many people base their success and goals on the opinions of other people. Friends, family, co-workers.
You need to stop worrying about what other people are thinking about you and your decisions.
It is a very dangerous habit to have as it encourages you to move with the masses or conform to the group.
Here is where the emotional freedom technique will help.
Now, this is not designed to make you arrogant. Rather it resolves and dissolves the emotional reaction you have to and about other people, places and things.
To be an independent and self-confident person you need to start being more independent!
When you start to care less about what other people think you start living more. This doesn’t mean you don’t care about people.
The emotional freedom technique resolves and dissolves what you think other people think.
Have you ever thought to yourself?; ‘he or she makes me feel guilty’ Question: who is doing the feeling?
It is your reaction to what they have said or done or not done that you interpret guilt from.
Most people get it wrong about you or what you can achieve anyway. I’d like to cement this by pointing out: The Beatles were rejected. Michael Jordan didn’t make his school basketball team. Richard Branson has had more failed businesses than successful ones.
If they have worried about what others have thought you would never have heard of them.
Your feeling is created by yourself. Other people do not have the power to make you feel a certain way. You choose to feel that way!
Using the emotional freedom technique will help you to overcome the fear of rejection.
Overcome your fear that they will think that your goals are too big and impossible for you to achieve them.
Overcome any emotional reaction to something in the past that they might have said or done.
Overcome your fear of putting yourself out there. And it will help you take the much-needed action in achieving your goals. From developing your own belief of self-worth and deserving.
With the emotional freedom technique it could be something as simple telling yourself;
Even though I’m afraid that others will think my goals are too big for me and I could never achieve them…
‘Even though I’m afraid of rejection’…
Even though he or she said x or did y and it made me feel…
Even though I’m not worthy of great success…
Even without being specific in detail, the emotional freedom technique will still work.
If you’re afraid about what you think others think about you doing Emotional Freedom Technique you can EFT that away too.
Another physical EFT is tapping, which like acupressure, tapping involves the body’s energy meridian points. Download my EFT tapping guide here