When people ask me ‘how do you stay motivated?’ It tell them ‘I don’t!’
When they ask me ‘how do you build motivation?’ I tell them ‘you don’t!’
I might sound like I’m unenthused or pessimistic but I can assure you I’m not.
I say this to help people understand that motivation is actually hindering them.
When your workouts are a war.
Your mindfulness exercises a fight.
Your imposed bedtimes a battle.
And your healthy food choices a struggle.
It doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you.
If you’re under some impression that you should be motivated to do these things and this inner conflict is something unique to you…
You’re are no different to anyone else. Everyone has the ‘Monkey’ in their head.
The Monkey’s job is to convince you to not do what you should be doing. And he’ll propose doing something easier, more exciting instead.
When this Monkey is absent, taking a bit of R&R. Recharging his batteries, before returning to once again stop you pursuing your goals…
…is when you’ll experience bouts of productivity and action. (You’re free from the Monkey’s powerful persuasion to Netflix and Chill.)
But when he’s back, that’s when the battle arises.
And right now it’s not a competition…
…he’s winning every time!
The Monkey is too strong and persuasive. He knows every trick in the book to stop you taking action towards your goal.
And exactly which buttons to press to re route you away from your dream.
He’s louder, stronger and his option is way more compelling.
And this is my problem with Motivation
It isn’t a compelling drive…
…it’s an absence of The Monkey.
And it’s how you’re currently operating.
Long periods of inactivity, interspliced with spurts of effort. (When the Monkey is taking annual leave (he doesn’t take much, he’s very dedicated to his job!)).
This is why motivation is not something to rely on!
People that are consistent with taking action know this.
Instead they rely on a routine. And over time they’ve strengthened their discipline to adhere to their routine.
To a point where they can overpower the Monkey every time. And force it into it’s cage (it’s not cruel, it’s a fictional metaphor).
Enabling them to take the action necessary to progress.
They don’t need to wait until their Monkey is away to take action.
And it’s this consistent action that sees them achieve their goal.
So if you need help with achieving confidence and focus to achieve your goals. Through the development of a good habits and routine.